Has anyone any experience of their ex using custody of their child to sponsor their family into UK?
I used to post on the old site about my friend's struggle with her ex who was using his child to get a UK visa. Sadly he has succeeded. not only that he now has full custody (residence) of their five year old daughter. Social services branded my friend as "vindictive and manipulative because she reported her ex for rape and immigration fraud. The judge believed them and now she only sees her child twice a month for three hours, they say she has abused her child by carrying out a two year campaign against her ex!.
We now know he is sponsoring his parents over here on the basis of them having strong ties with their "granddaughter; they have only seen her once when she was 2 years old and she did not like them. He is also going to re arrange his nephews entry into UK who was deported three years ago. We are certain that once over here in the UK they will "disappear" being given fake ID etc, that's what my friend's ex did to get here in the first place.
What's the best way to deal with this?
Hi, my friend has limited contact (supervised) with her 6 year old daughter. I used to post on the old site about how her ex manipulated things. He now has care of her daughter but she wants to come to live with her mum. The family courts are just as screwed up as the immigration system. Does your ex have ILR? My friend's still doesn't but the courts still gave the daughter to him!
You have to keep fighting, my friend is fighting a different battle to the one she had three years ago but still fighting. Keep us updated, don't give up. I will be praying for you.
My ex is horrible person. Only married me for visa and our daughter is also only his visa product from his side. Had take accusations of domestic violence from him, 3 years of hell in family court i have full main custody of our daughter. he sees her every other weekend (only because judge included penal notice if we dont comply), 0 contact invetween, minimum financial support, never came to School events, no engagement in her life really more than foreseen by court. I got barring order and cost order from family court so he cant sue me anymore. But i need to move abroad for my work, so he now wants her full custody rather than letting her to come with me. I offered to bring her back every other weekend as so far. He insists taking her. I suspects he has no other basis to stay in uk as EU child and he cant let her go. I have a son too from previous relationship relationship who is included in court order as he used to treat him Well (he was 18 mnts when we married) but he dropped him home middle of xmas Holiday contact this year and never taken him again. He had kid with new gf that time. So he wants to cut off her from her Brother too for no reason. He is trying anything to ruin my life. We are still married as i cant get divorce as he plays games. Stuck
Hi thanks for commenting. My friend now only has supervised contact with her daughter. Dad can't get child benefit and tax credit due to his status. Social services don't care at all.
What is your story?
there isnt a good way to deal with it i am afraid. My ex is currently doing the same to me and wants to use our daughter to stay in UK. Nobody seems to care to help
I didn't get any replies to my queries either despite contributing towards funds I'm at my wits end and it's making me ill. I know this is a new website and hopefully they will get caught up on the posts and synching from old site They all have their own battles they are fighting too so I do understand :D